"We have to be willing to cash in the coupon. We have to let go of those things that bring us to mourning. As ones created with God’s gift of free will we can choose to hang on to our worst days using them as an excuse for all sorts of things. We blame our bad days for failing in relationships, struggling at work, even physical pain. We wallow in our mourning reluctant to let it go for some reason. I’ve met those for whom mourning defines their existence. They have drawers full of worthless 'coupons' cluttering up their lives hoping that if they collect enough they will become valuable. The truth is, apart from our Redeemer, the pain of this life rarely becomes valuable. We cannot by our own effort find freedom..."